A woman standing in front of a computer

How I Curb the Urge to Quit

I wouldn’t tell just anyone what I’m about to tell you—and only because we’re like family. At least several times a week I want to quit. Seriously. The thought crosses my mind, and not when things are going great. It’s when I face a challenge: a tough writing assignment, a book deadline, an early morning interview, or a snarky message in my inbox.

woman in despair with head on desk in office setting

The temptation to quit is a recurring theme. And if the voices in my head don’t give me enough trouble, the voices in the culture finish the job. “Quit already! There are so many others with fresher voices better able to reach the younger generation. You deserve a break! Take it easy on yourself, go and enjoy your life.”

This is nothing new. I’ve been dealing with the urge to quit for a long time. I can anticipate its arrival. And because of that, I’ve learned ways to deal with it before it drives me to the brink of resignation.

Self talk

I talk back. Forcefully—with confidence and conviction. I ask myself: Why are you doing this? There are so many other jobs you could be doing that would require less work and less time!

My answer changes frequently. Some days I do this because it brings me a lot of joy and I get to be my own boss. Now and then, I conclude I’m doing this because even though I do work 50 to 60 hours a week, every week, I still enjoy tremendous freedom to choose how and where I put in those hours.

But most of the time, the response is quick, easy, and I’m back on track in no time. It’s because of you. And me. Without you and all of the people who make up this audience, there would be nothing to quit. You’re the reason. And I am the reason, too. I need this as much—if not more—as anyone! It’s my maintenance, my financial sobriety. The work I do every day keeps me on the wagon, out of debt and moving forward.

What I do here every day of my life is the hardest work I have ever done in my life. I can’t say that I’ve done a lot of other jobs, but I once was a process server, serving subpoenas in civil lawsuits to people who absolutely did not want to be served. At night in really bad neighborhoods.

I once had a roster of 52 piano students to whom I gave 30-minute private lessons each week—while at the same time I had two babies under the age of 3. I’ve been more than happily married for 50 years to the same guy, and yes that, too, is hard work.

But this daily gig? While challenging, the benefits are greater than anyone could ever imagine. You are what keeps me on my personal straight and narrow path—this journey to financial freedom. It is truly the best program any recovering overspending addict could hope to have.

Ever feel like you’re almost to the end of your rope and you just cannot hang on another minute? You’re not alone. Everyone goes through seasons of self-defeat, pain, and anguish.

It’s no wonder that we feel that way. What with the economy, the current state of unemployment and rising prices—to say nothing of global uncertainty and rumors of economic collapse in daily headlines—it really is enough to make you want to pull the covers up over your head and sleep until everything gets better.

Just so you know, that is not an option. Instead, here are three proactive steps you can take  that will give you the courage to keep going:

1. Verbalize how you feel

I would caution against making this a public dissertation. Write it journal style where you can keep it private.. Tell God how you feel. Say that you are angry and bitter or that you’re afraid to face the day. However you choose, find a way to pour out your heart. It is cleansing to get it all out because that helps to release swirling negative thoughts. While your situation may not change, the way you feel about it will.

2. Accept help from others

You really do not have to go through this by yourself. Once you determine where you are stuck, seek out help. If you are struggling with credit card debt, for example, go to NFCC.org to find a certified credit counseling organization in your area. Make the call. Ask for help. If it’s a medical situation where you cannot afford the cost of meds, reach out for help. Simply asking for help is going to guide you to resources you may not know exists.

3. Choose joy

Even when you are at the end of your rope, you still possess something very valuable: Your attitude. You can choose your thoughts. You can default to pain, fear, and anguish or you can proactively choose joy. You can focus on all that you do not have and all the stuff that’s coming at you, of you can choose to rise above that and focus on what you do have—even if that is just the air that you breathe. Embrace it. Choose to think only about things that are lovely, true, and pure.

I do not personally know anyone who has a perfect life. On the contrary, we’re all on this journey and the road can get rocky from time to time. I’ve come to realize that what I’ve been through can either beat me down and make me bitter, or I can choose for my experiences to make the difference in someone else’s life.

So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Thank you for your loyalty, commitment, and diligence in living below your means and affirming the power of discovering new ways to save time and money every day!



More from Everyday Cheapskate

popular new year resolutions - colorful sticky notes on a cork board
A person standing in front of a brick building
Whoville Austrian Mountain Village
salad spinners
A bowl of oranges on a table
A person wearing a neck tie
closeup rear view of frustrated woman scratching chalkboard

Please keep your comments positive, encouraging, helpful, brief,

and on-topic in keeping with EC Posting Guidelines

Print Friendly, PDF & Email
61 replies
« Older CommentsNewer Comments »
  1. PEGGY HAYWARD says:

    Mary, I love your blog and all the wisdom that you bring to all of us. I look forward to what you have to share daily. I will be celebrating my 50th wedding anniversary this year and I still look for ways to do things better! Your work is much appreciated

  2. Suzanne G. says:

    Dear Mary, Thank you for so many years of honesty, encouragement, great ideas and practical solutions (literally- many “solutions”)! We trust you. I love that your advice and ideas come from your own, tested experience. I love that you never suggest something without explaining HOW to accomplish it. If you need to slow down or scale back, please do. God bless you!

  3. Irene Saltsgaver says:

    I have a folder that I send all your posts to each day, and refer back to them often, thank you for sharing your knowledge

  4. Linda Ketcham says:

    I echo what so many others have said!! I look forward each day to your wisdom, insight & tools to make life easier! Your faith is a connection linking you even more closely to so many of us!
    We appreciate that you keep “fighting the good fight” for us but please don’t burn yourself out!!
    Thank you for all you do!!

  5. Mary says:

    Thank You Mary Hunt for all your wonderful encouragement and frugal tips, recipes and etc etc! Please don’t quit doing this! We have been retired for 4 years and Retirement is not all it is talked up to be! I miss several things about not working. 1.) Work friends, 2) Paycheck 3.) A sense of being a part of the workpkace and training opportunities. 4.) You miss the mental challanges of the job. I feel like my mind is not as quick and comprehension has slipped on certain tasks. 5.) When retired everyday is a Saturday, you loose track of what day it is! I could elaborate more but I am sure you get the message. Please hang in there Mary Hunt we Love you and your encouragement, tips, recipes, frugal money saving ideas. Stay in the game and stay sharp! Or at least do it part time like a once weekly post!

  6. Sandy Johnson says:

    Mary, I have a huge photo album/recipe keeper that always sits on my desk. I have articles of yours I have cut out for as long as I can remember!!! You also have a special cookbook with your recipes in my bookcase!!! You are my “go-to” for advice, information, best products etc. My house is stocked with products you have tested and recommended through the years. I just hit 70 this week, and I thought you needed to know what you have meant to me!!!!!

  7. Lynn E Clark says:

    Thank you, Mary, for posting this.

    It helped me so. Different circumstances- same urging and desires to quit. You’ve helped me through some incredibly tough times and I loved it when you shared about your faith. It seems like much of the world is telling me to shut up and go away and take my values with me.

    Please don’t quit- just for today… one day at a time.


  8. Vicki G says:

    Thank you Mary for all the years of advice you contributed to my life. I needed this newsletter today as I venture into becoming a home based small business owner. I am quite the procrastinator. But, I am encouraged that I can choose to make a plan in steps to achieve my goals. We all have naysayers in our lives. We don’t have to pick up others issues because they don’t add to or take away from our life. Bloom where your planted and continue to grow.

  9. Sherill says:

    Thank you for not quitting! You make my life better in so many little ways that add up to a big difference. And that is especially important now, during this pandemic, when everything is a challenge. Thank you, Mary!

« Older CommentsNewer Comments »

Leave a Reply

Want to join the discussion?
Feel free to contribute!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *