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What My Debt Taught Me About Real Freedom

/3 Comments/in , , /by Mary Hunt

I owed over $100,000 in consumer debt on a good income, and nobody made me do it. This July 4th, I want to tell you what actually got me free: not a windfall, but a simple gap between what I earned and what I spent. Here’s how you can declare your own financial independence, starting today, no fireworks required.

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Happy 250th birthday, America.

Two hundred fifty years ago, a bunch of guys in wool coats sat in a hot room in Philadelphia and declared they were done. Done being controlled, done answering to a king who didn’t have their best interests at heart. I didn’t have a king. I had a Visa card, and it took me a lot longer to get free of it.

Over $100,000 in consumer debt. On a good income. Nobody put a gun to my head. I did it myself, one “I deserve this” purchase at a time, telling myself I’d deal with it later. Later took a very long time to show up.

So while everybody else is celebrating the 4th with flags and potato salad this weekend, I want to talk about a different kind of independence. The kind you can declare for yourself without waiting for a parade.

What are you really up against?

The Founders had King George. You’ve got something else holding the reins, and it’s worth naming.

Maybe it’s a credit card balance that never quite shrinks no matter what you throw at it. Maybe it’s that feeling on the 28th of the month where you’re already doing math about the 30th. Maybe it’s just knowing, deep down, that one flat tire would wreck your whole week.

Whatever it is, name it. You don’t need a revolution, and you definitely don’t need 56 signatures. You just need a decision.

The whole secret

The gap between what you earn and what you spend. That’s it. That’s the whole game, and it took me way too long to believe something so simple could actually work.

Every dollar that doesn’t leave your hand is a dollar working for you instead of against you. I didn’t climb out of six figures of debt because I got a raise or won the lottery. I climbed out because I made that gap a little wider, week after week, longer than I care to admit.

Put it in writing

Nothing important stays real for long if it only lives in your head. The Founders didn’t just grumble about King George at dinner. They wrote it down and signed their names to it.

Get a piece of paper and write down what you’re sick of and what you want instead. Maybe that’s minimum payments and overdraft fees on one side, an actual emergency fund on the other. Maybe it’s a car payment you’re tired of versus a car you just own.

Sign it, date it, and stick it somewhere you’ll actually see it. Somewhere you can’t pretend not to notice.

Build yourself some reinforcements

I keep a separate account for the expenses that aren’t quite emergencies but sure act like ones. The car repair. The dead water heater. The property tax bill that catches me off guard every single year even though it lands on the same date every single year. I call it my Freedom Account, and it’s less a savings account than it is ammunition.

When the unexpected shows up, and it always does, you meet it with a plan instead of a panic and a credit card. Pair that with a real emergency fund for the bigger stuff, job loss, a real medical bill, and you’ve built yourself a little army that doesn’t answer to a bank, a bill collector, or a 22% interest rate.

Skip the sparkler

Fireworks are gorgeous for about thirty seconds, then they’re smoke. Financial freedom doesn’t work that way. It’s a lot less dazzling and a lot more useful.

Mostly it just feels like exhaling: not flinching when the phone rings, actually falling asleep instead of doing math in your head at midnight. Nobody claps for a healthy savings account, and that’s fine by me. It outlasts every sparkler I’ve ever lit, easy.

Make it official

You don’t need a committee to sign off on this, and you definitely don’t need perfect timing. You need a piece of paper and the willingness to start today instead of “someday.”

A couple hundred years ago, a bunch of stubborn colonists decided they were done answering to somebody else, and they didn’t wait for ideal conditions to say so. Tonight, in your own kitchen, you get to make that same call about your own money.

Happy Independence Day. Go write yours down.

 

Question: What’s one financial “king” you’ve already booted, debt, a bad habit, a subscription you’ve been meaning to cancel? I’m nosy. Tell me in the comments.

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3 replies
  1. Ann says:

    Have a credit card that’s only used for purchases made online. Then if there’s an issue it can be found easily.

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  2. Wendy Tucker (Tockman) says:

    I record EVERY SINGLE PURCHASE. 12 sheets of ruled paper, columns showing date, amt of purchase, where purchase, what was purchased & how paid. Everything (quarters for coin-operated washer/dryers). I keep a running total and categorize by purchases which are occasional (auto insurance, car registration), occasion-specific (birthday gifts) and unexpected. I try to make monthly total LESS than prior month and always less than income (social security only). I plan to start a pet veterinary medicine fund–set aside a specific amount each month–probably set up specific account at bank so I can accrue even a tiny amount of interest. As an old friend said once when giving his total fee for handy person repairs, ‘It add up.’ YES. It does. But being in charge of spending is enormously gratifying. Thanks, Mary–your comments about this are very very important.

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  3. Linda says:

    Your article about debt is so good. I love seeing it in writing, a reminder for us.
    About 25 years ago, we were 30+ K in debt. A wake up call because we had NO spare $. Barely making it.
    I decided to put everything down in writing and figure out how to change our situation.
    I played the credit card game by using offers at 0% interest to pay off bills. I did it over and over. Also, anytime there were a few spare dollars, it went on the smallest bill to be able to knock it out completely. Whenever a bill was paid off, it left more money to tackle the next one. We paid off every single bill and have stayed debt free to this day. It is an awesome feeling.
    I hope the encouragement you are putting out there for us will help many more become debt free.
    Thank you for your newsletters. I appreciate them and often make purchases on your recommendation.

    Linda

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