Feeling Overwhelmed? Try This 30-Day Reset
Ever notice how quickly your mood can shift after scrolling headlines for ten minutes? I realized Iโd been absorbing stress like a sponge that forgot how to wring itself out. So Iโm doing a 30-day reset. Less background news. Fewer financial rabbit holes. More sleep. Daily quiet time. Guarding my thoughtsโฆ because they matter. This isnโt about ignoring reality. Itโs about strengthening your response to it. If life feels heavy lately, maybe a reset is worth trying. Whoโs ready to unplug just a little?
To say that Iโm impressionable would be putting it kindly. If thereโs tension in the air, I breathe it in. If thereโs uncertainty on the screen, I carry it around like itโs mine. Years ago, I watched Castaway and spent the next week dreaming I was drowning. Apparently my brain doesnโt just watch a story… it moves in and redecorates.
That realization was a wake-up call. I may not control world events, markets, or other peopleโs decisions, but I do control what I repeatedly expose myself to. Repeated exposure shapes perspective. It influences sleep, patience, focus, even how kindly we respond to the people sitting across the dinner table.
This reset isnโt dramatic. Itโs practical stewardship. If we can manage our homes, budgets, and calendars, we can manage our inputs. Over the next 30 days, Iโm committing to five steady habits to help me think clearly, sleep better, and respond wisely instead of reacting emotionally.
Step 1: Turn Off the TV (and the Constant Feed)
Step 2: Leave Wall Street (Alone)
For the next 30 days, I am not checking the market. Not the daily swings. Not the breathless forecasts. Not even my own account balance. Because when I do, I donโt just observe the numbers. I absorb them.
If the market dips, I feel it in my shoulders. If someone predicts disaster, my brain starts rehearsing it like itโs already happened. I can turn a โwhat ifโ into a full emotional experience before breakfast.
Nearly half of investors check their portfolios at least once a day. With apps on our phones, it takes about six seconds to know exactly how things are performing. That sounds responsible. Disciplined. Informed.
But behavioral finance experts call it โhigh-frequency monitoring.โ The more often we look, the more likely we are to see a loss, even a small one, and the more intensely we feel it. Thereโs even a term for it: myopic loss aversion. In plain English? When we check too often, we become more sensitive to losses than to gains.
Surveys show the majority of adults identify money as a major source of stress. It shows up as irritability, fatigue, sleeplessness, tension headaches. It creeps into marriages, parenting, leadership decisions, and our overall sense of security.
If youโve already built a long-term strategy (i.e., diversified investments, appropriate risk level, maybe even automatic contributions), the daily fluctuation is noise. Necessary noise, perhaps. But noise nonetheless.
So hereโs what โleaving Wall Streetโ looks like for me:
- No daily portfolio checks.
- No late-night economic forecasts.
- No doom-scrolling financial commentary.
If you use automated investing tools, let them do their job. Thatโs what theyโre built for. If you manage your own investments, consider a set schedule (i.e., once a month, once a quarter) and stick to it. Put it on the calendar. Treat it like any other responsible review.
Step 3: Create Daily Quiet Time for Reflection
Rarely am I truly alone and still. Iโm usually doing two things at once, sometimes three. For the next 30 days, Iโm carving out intentional quiet time. No multitasking allowed. Just stillness.
For some, that may look like prayer. For others, journaling a single page. Slow breathing. Reading something grounding. Sitting on the porch before the house wakes up. A walk without earbuds. The method matters less than the margin.
We live in a time when constant input is normal. Our minds rarely power down. And when the brain never rests, it canโt sort, prioritize, or process very well.
Even five to fifteen minutes of quiet has measurable benefits. Studies consistently show that brief daily mindfulness or reflective practices can lower cortisol (the stress hormone), improve focus, and increase emotional regulation. In practical terms? Fewer reactive moments. Clearer thinking. Better sleep.
If you prefer structure, try:
- A guided meditation app (set it and close it when finished).
- A printed devotional or short essay.
- A gratitude list: three specific things, not generic ones.
- Box breathing (inhale four, hold four, exhale four, hold four).
If you prefer analog life, even better:
- Sit outside with coffee before screens.
- Take a slow lap around the block.
- Light a candle and read a page of something substantial.
If youโre wired to be productive every second, this may feel uncomfortable at first. Thatโs usually the signal that your nervous system has been running on high for too long.
Quiet builds steadiness. Steadiness builds better decisions. And better decisions compound at home, at work, in relationships, and even in finances. Five intentional minutes can shift the tone of an entire day. And right now, that feels like a very good trade.
Step 4: Go to Bed at a Set Time
I almost donโt want to write this one because it exposes me. I have treated nighttime like bonus hours. The house is quiet. The phone slows down. No one needs anything. It feels productive and peaceful… until it isnโt. Iโve crawled into bed at 2:30 or 3:00 a.m., only to have the alarm ring at 6:00 like itโs personally offended. And then I wonder why Iโm foggy. Why small problems feel big. Why my patience runs thin.
For the next 30 days, Iโm going to bed at 11:30 p.m. No exceptions.
Most adults need at least seven hours of sleep a night. And quality matters just as much as quantity. Interrupted, restless sleep doesnโt restore much of anything.
When we consistently shortchange sleep, it shows up everywhere: slower thinking and weaker decision-making, higher stress levels, increased irritability, greater risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, and type 2 diabetes, stronger cravings for sugar and caffeine, and more emotional reactivity. In other words, exhaustion makes everything heavier.
And hereโs what Iโve had to admit: staying up late doesnโt actually create more life. It just steals from tomorrow.
If youโre wired to push through, to finish one more task, to answer one more email, this may hit close to home. Especially if you work remotely, run a business, manage a household, or juggle multiple roles. The lines between work and rest blur easily when your laptop is five feet away. But clear boundaries protect energy.
Hereโs what Iโm doing to make this realistic instead of aspirational:
- Set a nightly alarm at 11:00 p.m… not to wake up, but to start winding down.
- Screens off 30 minutes before bed. (Yes, even the โquick scroll.โ)
- Cooler, darker room.
- No caffeine after mid-afternoon.
- Same wake-up time, even on weekends.
If 11:30 feels unrealistic for you, choose a time that allows for at least seven hours before your alarm. Put it on the calendar like you would an early meeting.
If sleep has been difficult for a while (i.e., frequent waking, trouble falling asleep, constant fatigue), itโs worth talking with a healthcare provider. Sometimes thereโs more going on, and guessing your way through it just prolongs the frustration.
But for most of us, the first step is simpler: stop negotiating with bedtime. This reset isnโt about squeezing more out of the day. Itโs about showing up to it clear-headed and steady. And that starts the night before.
Step 5: Guard Your Mind From Mental Clutter
Even with better boundaries, more sleep, and less market noise, I still haveโฆ this mind. You know the one. It can generate worries without any outside help. Replay old conversations. Predict worst-case scenarios that havenโt happened and may never happen. Draft speeches Iโll never give.
Hereโs what Iโm reminding myself this month: I donโt control every thought that pops in. But I absolutely control what gets to stay. Thereโs a big difference.
Trying to โwinโ against every negative thought is exhausting. The more you wrestle with them, the stronger they seem to get. A better approach and one backed by solid mindfulness research is simpler: notice the thought, name it, and let it pass without engaging.
Instead of:
โWhy do I always mess this up?โ
Try:
โThatโs a self-doubt thought.โ
And then return to what you were doing.
It sounds almost too basic. But it works because it shifts you from being inside the thought to observing it.
When we constantly replay worries, our bodies respond as if the threat is real. Heart rate increases. Muscles tighten. Sleep suffers. Over time, that mental clutter turns into physical stress.
Guarding your mind isnโt about pretending everything is fine. Itโs about being selective with your attention. And hereโs something worth remembering: your thoughts are influenced by fatigue, hunger, stress, hormones, and old experiences. They are not always reliable narrators.
You can acknowledge regret without living there. You can feel fear without obeying it. You can notice doubt without adopting it.
A Practical 30-Day Reset Plan You Can Start Today
Some seasons feel heavier than others. The headlines are louder, the worries stack higher, and before long youโre carrying stress that isnโt even yours. When life feels saturated, it may be time to reboot your spiritโฆ not by ignoring reality, but by strengthening your response to it.
For the next 30 days:
- Cut the news and media noise. Stay informed, then step away.
- Pause financial scrolling. Check your plan, then close the app.
- Carve out quiet reflection. Ten minutes. No input. Just space.
- Prioritize your sleep. Set a bedtime. Honor it.
- Declutter your mind. Notice the spiral. Take one practical step forward.
Thatโs it. Five steady practices. Simple? Yes. Easy? Not always. Effective? Absolutely.
And most importantly… you start to feel in charge again.
Question: If you had to unplug from one stress trigger for 30 days (news, social media, late nights, or checking your investments) which one would you choose? Share in the comments below.
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Dear Mary,
Iโve been following you columns, reading your books (can I get an autograph?) and subscribing off and on for years! All your columns inspire me, but this one knocks the ball out of the park!
When I read that youโre a night owl like me, I admitted to myself that I really MUST get back to a regular bedtime routine. At 66 itโs becoming more essential than ever!
Thanks again for another great reminder!
Love you bunches, Joni
How nice to hear from you, Joni. Thanks for your encouragement. โฃ๏ธ Stay tuned. You might be able to earn an autographed book. Making plans … ๐
Dear Mary,
I am with you! I have been practicing most everything you listed (need to stick closer to regular bedtime).
I donโt really watch TV. In fact, we only have wifi, no cable, no broadcast tv, but on Friday nights my husband loves to stream a movie. They usually involve some dystopian future plagued by killer robots, giant, killer space rocks, unfriendly aliens or pestilence of some kind and lots of chasing. Itโs not my idea of fun. Like you, I internalize this stuff so I usually go in another room.
I just wanted to say something positive: You/your emails have been life-changing for me. Your posts either give me a new idea or affirm what I had been thinking up already(Iโm no spring chicken!). On top of that, we are finally debt free(insert happy dance here)!!!!!!!!
I have tried many of your recipes and cooking methods with great success, switched to microfiber cleaning cloths, make my own detergent from your recipe, make many of your cleaning and cleaning refill recipes and thoughtfully bought a few products youโve suggested.
Best of all, I love your upbeat, kind, godly, can-do spirit.
Mary Hunt, youโre a national treasurer! Thank you!
guarding my mind – this may sound silly but when negative or stressful thoughts start to creep into my mind, i think about and visualize a big chocolate cake covered with delicious gooey chocolate frosting and focus on that for a moment until the bad thoughts go away. works every time, and, i also find watching the zoo programs on animal planet and other places relaxing and stress relieving. the total love that the keepers have for their animals is what shines thru.
TV is such a bad distraction. I stopped watching most TV in the 80s when I realized that there was nothing positive on the news. To this day, I do not watch any news on TV. The last time I tuned in was during the 9/11 terrorist attacks. I do watch some specific shows, but I have TiVo and I watch them at my convenience, not when they air.
I saw this in my inbox but could not get to it until today. You nailed it with this piece. I do/feel everything you mentioned here and I had been thinking seriously about taking time away from media in the morning while getting ready for work. Music, whatever I might choose, seems like a better idea. Also instead of listening to other people tell me what they think, how about finding out what God has to say about all that is going on. In my devotion for the morning, it was of the same topic and as soon as I saw it, I was amazed at how hungry I was to read it.
Good on you!
Sage advice, Mary. And so timely. Thanks.
I finally learned how to quiet my mind form something Eckhart Tolle advised: First completely relax all your muscles, even those in your face and shoulders and inside your stomach (those are the hardest for me). Then take a few deep breaths. Then continue breathing deeply and concentrate only on your breathing. When you realize your mind has wandered to some problem, smile to yourself, take another deep breath, and go back to concentrating on your breathing. Sometimes this isn’t easy, but it gets easier with practice.
Mary, I have been exactly the same way the last week or 2. I don’t intentionally watch much news but it is so invasive that it finds you unless you stay away from any media altogether. I am going to try like you to avoid listening or reading the global news because it is all bad and focusing on God in my thoughts for peace and comfort and count on Him to take my troubles away. Thanks,
I’m in the same boat as you! Controlling my thoughts is the hardest. I recently heard Dr. Caroline Leaf speak at a women’s meeting at our church. All about how the mind builds “pathways” of thoughts but we can change that. Her book Switch On Your Brain is wonderful at explaining it scientifically and giving steps to accomplish it. She also has free videos on You Tube. It’s worth checking out.
Mary I feel like you read my mind. I’ve always said I “feel things” so deeply that it can interfere with living my life well. The news locally and globally has hurt my heart and kept my head spinning as of late. I’ve never been a good sleeper so these things running around in my head do not help that situation. I’m going to follow your lead. Thank you once more…
It’s nice to know others are struggling with the same things! God will reward your faithfulness, those who earnestly seek Him will find! Bless you.
If you have a broadband connection and a smart TV, why not log onto YouTube through it? I have created different playlists on YouTube (Christian/Inspirational, Feel Good Songs, Workout Music, etc.) … when I am at home and want “noise” while I work, I put on YouTube and go. Technically, this could work with #3, Spending Time with God. There are some great Christian motivational speakers as well as uplifting sermons, etc. that can help you learn more about God and feel closer to him. I am not one to write in a journal but when I put on inspirational music or listen to an uplifting sermon, it helps me feel closer to God and my spirit refreshed.
I think you need to add “reading for pleasure”……it’s always a good thing for the mind and spirit! Good luck! My alarm goes off at 5am, so staying up to 11:30pm is way past my bed time of 9-9:30. LOL
Dear Mary, you are a Christian, and you should be asking God to guard your mind. We can’t always control our thoughts, but God can! Give your thoughts and worries to God, instead of trying to control them yourself! Love and hugs from Ruth
Spot on! I love your website and have been a faithful follower since you started. This has to be one of my favorites. We must have healthy balances in our lives. Nothing is more important than spending time with our Creator!
Oh I want to give you a hug. I have the same sort of problem – I call it having a boundary issue – where out there stops vs in here. For that reason I really don’t ever watch the news – if something is big enough if filters through in other ways and I can go look at THAT for myself. And I haven’t voluntarily watched television [I have three kids who like to share a movie with mom sometimes] in years when there wasn’t laundry to be folded – even then I watch a movie.
I hope this all gives you some peace! It also helps me to meditate each day, and sometimes I listen to visualizations from trusted places as I fall asleep – prevents the chatter in my brain from affecting any visualization *I* might come up with!
Excellent ideas! The enemy is always trying to fill out time with busyness, so we have no time left for God and what He may want to say to us. In this current age of technology, it seems most are unable to put down their phones, tablets, etc for even a minute and listen for His promptings or just bask in His presence.
These thoughts come to me at a good time. Our church Bible study is suspended for the summer, but still so important to spend time with God ALWAYS. And a great reminder that we are all bombarded with the sad, distressing state of the world’s news these days, so a ‘fast’ from TV and other negative news is really OK. We don’t have to be up on the latest events. Just wish we could establish a ‘good news center’ that would share the many good deeds and ‘pay it forward acts’ that are done each day. Because it does happen – just rarely makes the TV, newspaper reports.
Regarding your last point about guarding your mind – I do the same thing. I will lay in bed and conjure up all kinds of scenarios and keep myself from falling asleep. I have taken to telling myself to think of one specific thing only and that usually clears my mind and helps me to relax and fall asleep. Usually I will think about something coming up that I am really looking forward to, like a trip, or a special day with family. It really does work!
These are all wonderful ideas. I think I’ll try some of them myself. I hope you will follow up after the 30 days and let us know how it worked for you.