frog in a pot of water

My Life as a Frog

I have been told if you attempt to pop a frog into a pot of boiling water he’ll jump out every time. But if you put the little fellow into a pot of cold water, set it on a low flame, and warm it slowly, he’ll sit back, relax and let you cook him to death.

frog in a pot of water

The frog is so impressed by the lovely warm, cozy feeling he ignores what’s going on. Before he knows what hit him, Bam! Fresh Frog Soup.

For many years I had a frog mentality when it came to my fine assortment of credit cards. Oh, I was never so foolish as to make a single credit card purchase for something really big or expensive like a boat or a car. Not even I could tolerate that boiling pot.

It was cool when I jumped into the pot, a terrific environment filled with freedom and options. My credit cards bridged the gap between what we had and what we needed to enjoy the lifestyle I’d chosen. It was convenient, socially acceptable, and amazingly effortless. I didn’t notice the gradual rise in temperature.

At some point, our monthly credit purchases exceeded the amount we could repay within the grace period. Maybe I flinched the first time we “revolved” but soon cozied up to the warming condition.

By the time I was fully cooked, I’d accumulated over $100,000 in unsecured debt, including credit cards, personal loans, debt consolidation loans, and installment loans. Ouch!

You have no idea how often I’ve asked myself how in the world I could have let that happen. My only explanation is that it happened a bit at a time, so gradually, I didn’t notice.

I didn’t make unusually large, exotic purchases. I just overspent consistently, adding new debt to old debt and revolving all of it from month to month. I paid the interest and fees but rarely any principal and seldom on time.

Thankfully, I did shed my amphibious nature and got out of a rolling boil. In the full 13 years it took to repair the mess, I learned that even if you don’t know exactly what you’re doing, even the baby steps count if you’re headed in the right direction.

Are things getting a little warm for you? You could be close to the scalding point and completely oblivious to that condition. Perhaps it’s time to take your temperature.

Here’s a thermometer of tell-tale signs to determine if you’re about to get cooked.

  • You use a credit card to buy day-to-day necessities like food and gas.
  • You pay only the minimum payment on your credit card balance.
  • You’re behind in your payments.
  • You frequently receive late notices and pay late fees.
  • You’re at or over the limit on your credit cards.
  • You cringe when the phone rings.
  • Your credit report stinks.
  • You do not know how much you owe or what you spend on interest.

If things seem a little hotter than they should be, I suggest you perform a most unfrog-like move: Get out!

Ribbit.

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  1. sylvia melnyk says:

    So glad I stumbled on your sight (looking for fast efficient ways to organize my family photos and history) Will be referring to your site alot. Appreciate your life wisdom. Thanks and God’s blessings be upon you and yours! Grammie Sylvia

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  2. Eileen says:

    I used credit cards regularly in the past, accumulating a balance on several but never anything like you describe. Who knows what might have happened had I continued in this direction. Fortunately, as I began to prepare seriously for retirement I read your column about how to work through your balances by paying off the high balance/high interest ones first and then rolling those payments into the next higher, etc. Almost magically (not really) all was paid off a lot sooner than I could have imagined. Now I do have about four cards that I pay off monthly. I use each for specific purchases and use the ones with best rewards on specific categories of purchase. One gives me !% rewards on grocery store purchases. Another gives me 3% on travel expenses (hotels, air, etc). Another gives me 3% on online purchases. Costco card gives me 4% on gas purchases. I keep track carefully and never run a balance but it definitely works for me!!

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  3. Rhonda says:

    You are so candid about your experience. You are very helpful in not wanting the same bad experience for others. Thanks so much!! Personally, I’ve always been financially responsible and use credit cards all of the time. I pay the entire balance monthly.
    Love your posts!!

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